Ask yourself these questions, do they make you feel bad about yourself? Do you have to change the way you act in front of them? Do they use their power to control you? Do they drain you emotionally and mentally? Do you feel trapped in a vicious cycle? If you said yes to any of these questions, then you have a toxic friend.
You should drop a toxic friend because it can damage your mental health, reduce your productivity, and destroy your overall well-being.
Here’s how to cut ties with a toxic friend:
1. Have an honest conversation. When you realize that your friendship has become toxic, then a conversation needs to happen. It needs to cover how you’ve been hurt, how the friendship has interfered with your mental, physical, or emotional health, how you feel about the friendship, and how you hope it will change in the future. Make sure to listen to what they have to say as well. If you both can’t come to a mutual understanding or the other person become defensive, then walk away.
2. Setting boundaries is another way to cut ties with toxicity. This is for people who gave their friend a second change. Make sure to take notes of your own habits so, the dynamic of the old friendship doesn’t happen again.
3. Making new friends or grow closer to your other friends. Cultivating other friendships helps because you will start to not have to rely on that toxic friend for love and support.
4. Refusing to engage (my favorite thing to do). Understand that ghosting for a bit or taking a break is okay for your mental health. This is called putting yourself first. Allowing some distance will remind you of your own self-worth and when the time is right you will be ready to face the world again and that toxic friend.
5. Allow yourself to grow apart. This is taking the initiative to improve your life. Sometime this might be the case anyway. You may feel that your friend is toxic because you’re already growing apart.
Side notes: If you don’t recognize any toxic traits in your friends, but the friendship is heading south, then you are the toxic person.
Stay away from people who can’t take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong.