Can Caring People Care Less?

The answer is simply no. Caring people just need to learn how to care for themselves a little more. Have you noticed that genuine people who are truly caring, care for other people more than they take the time to care for their own needs? They can never say no and sometimes even caring too much can be a bit much for them.

I am that person. How do I learn to put myself before others and understand that its ok to say no even when your heart just wants no one to suffer?

Resume: The Do’s and Don’ts

One thing I have learned about myself is that I am god damn good at making myself look good on paper. (I’m hard on myself so, I always say there is room for improvement.) I know how to create really good resumes. Over the years of the many times I have been stuck unemployed for long periods of times, constantly interviewing, applying for jobs and reading job descriptions, and most importantly working for employers, I think I’m kind of an expert at building resumes, but like I said before, there is room for improvement.

There are four types of resumes that people generally use when they create one. They are: The Chronological Resume (your work history is listed in order. Usually people with a solid work history opt for this format), Functional Resume (focuses on skills and experience and de-emphasize work history. People who have lapses in employment opt for this choice or recent college graduates), Combination Resume (highlight skills and traits and your chronological work history), and Targeted Resume (your work history, education, and skills are reflections of the job requirements).

These are the do’s and don’ts for when you are creating a resume. (These tips may vary depending on what type of resume you have to create, but these are for the standard job resume.)

Resume Do’s: The Basics

• Highlight your most relevant experiences. You want your resume to be tailored and targeted to the specific job that you’re applying for. The targeted resume will be the best format to highlight relevant experiences. This resume style is customized and specific to the position you want. For example, if you’re applying for a job as a fashion stylist at some huge fashion company, then you could emphasize your bachelor’s degree in Fashion, and you did a fashion internship your senior year. Also, you worked as a stylist for big fashion shows and you have a fashion blog that you run. These are some things that would make an employer want to know more things about you.
• Something I learned while being unemployed is that large organizations and small businesses have an applicant tracking system to select only qualified applicants. It scans your resume for keywords, phrases, and several other things before selecting resumes that considered qualified and sending it for consideration by a real person. So, to get it past the applicant tracking system, make sure you use keywords, the best resume formatting system, and proofread (no spelling errors).
• Do use data. It’s easy to think that your job doesn’t involve anything with numbers. Recruiters like to see numbers on resumes with a bullet next to it. For an example, if you’re a teacher that works at a school, then some data you could possibly put on your resume next to a bullet point is “Students overall grades increased by 30% from last semester.” Quantifying an accomplishment rather than just simply stating it shows employers your achievement a little clearer.

• You want to include soft skills. The quantifying technique works for this as well. You want to list your skill then use facts to show not tell. You want them to know you are an effective communicator before meeting you in person. For an example, if you are say that you have outstanding organizational skills, then you should follow it by saying “I have cleaned and rearranged several file cabinets to alleviate clutter and to keep things orderly, resulting in the organizing of 120 patient charts in alphabetical order showing a significant reduction in a case for a HIPPA violation.” The soft skill was organization and the data that was used was 120 patient charts, plain and simple.
• Volunteer work and other non-work experience can be included on your resume if it’s related to the job you are applying for. If volunteer work or side projects have taught you a skill, then include it on your resume. Also, if volunteering is the only experience you have, then use it and tailor it to the job you’re applying for.
• It’s okay to include personal accomplishments. In some interviews, they ask you what are your biggest accomplishments? They look for accomplishments that you have achieved in your work history that relates to the job you’re applying for. So, why not already list it on your resume? If you have done something that shows your strong work ethic or that you have a desire to challenge yourself, then list it.
• If you have moved up or around at past companies, show that. You want to highlight your different job titles at one company. For an example, “I started as a cashier at Walmart. After my probationary period, I got promoted to Customer Service Supervisor. I worked in that position for a year before becoming an Assistant Manager.”
• Always be truthful on your resume. You don’t want them to ask you about something that was a lie on your resume.
• Also, use real English. Using big words doesn’t make you sound intelligent and employers know what you’re trying to do and you’re most likely failing to do it.
• Use powerful verbs such as “administered,” “consolidated,” or “managed.”
• Include your contact information.
• Keep it one page and don’t squish it all in.
• Make sure job titles and companies stand out on your resume. The want to see your experience.

Resume Don’ts:

• Don’t forget to spell check.
• Don’t use more than two lines per bullet. This will save you space because you want everything to fit on one page.
• Don’t go overboard with text effects. Use emphasis on the information that needs it such as highlighting a job title or place.
• Don’t use too many fonts. Two should be the maximum.
• Don’t squish it all in. If you find yourself constantly playing with the format and changing the font size, then you’re trying to squish it all in. Get rid of some information that doesn’t belong.
• Don’t include “references available upon request” because nowadays, if employers are interested, they will ask for a separate reference page or if you listed references on the initial application, then they will use that.
• Don’t go overboard trying to sell yourself. Meaning don’t over-due it trying to convince someone about how stellar you are at cooking and you did amazing when you were in culinary school.
• Don’t include anything random that doesn’t fit the job. No one cares that you were in a writing club and that you did gymnastics five years ago.
• Don’t include obvious skills like knowing how to work Microsoft word. If you have graduated college, then it’s safe to say that you do.
• Don’t put anything confidential on your resume. If you wouldn’t share it on your personal social media account, like address, then don’t put it on your resume. You never know who’s looking at your resume.
• When writing the job descriptions on your resume, do not steal the exact words of the job description from the job that you are applying too. Try using bullets a list your most important and relevant job duties that’s similar to what they are saying.
• Also, don’t trip if you have no relevant experience. Use the experience you have and shape it to fit for the job you’re applying for. For an example, if your just graduating college with a degree in English and you’re applying for a assistant editor job at a publishing company, you can list any relevant coursework you took while in college and give a detailed description of how it relates to the job and achievements, accomplishments, or any knowledge or skill that you obtained that makes this relevant experience for this job.

I know this is a lot, but I hope these suggestions help someone with their resume.

Social Media: The Good and Bad

The topic I want to discuss today is social media. Social media has a huge impact on so many of our lives today and it has good and bad benefits. I think everyone has a Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram nowadays. From regular people to booming businesses to old men trying to find a twenty-three-year-old girl who would be willing to provide them general conversation. Even political parties and government officials have social media accounts and seems to be very active on them (Donald Trump). Jobs are posting ads on social media websites to attract employees. Social media can also have negative effects also. For an example, suicide rates have gone up since this new era of digital age and social media.

One of the pros of social media is that it spreads information faster than any other form of media. If a music video drop at midnight, the whole world gets it at the same time. Everyone knew about The Amazon Rainforest fire at the same time and not just the people in Brazil and then everyone else three days later. Social Media offers a way for artist to build an audience without a corporate contract. So many people have gotten famous from YouTube such as Chloe and Halle. Then, you got people who actually get paid for being YouTube stars such as Jessika the prankster and Bianca Renee. Models get signed from Instagram such as Tabria Majors. It’s also beneficial for corporate, small businesses, and new entrepreneurs to get their brands out and represent them accordingly. Social media helps with disarming social stigmas. The #Metoo movement reduces the stigma around sexual assault. Also, mental health awareness has risen, and the LGBTQ community can openly be themselves and feel like they have social acceptance.

One of the cons of social media is that it spreads information faster than any form of media. I know I said that as a pro, but it can be a con because just as fast as something true can spread, false information can too. All the rumors about that aren’t true about celebrities. They always have to clear things up on their own social media page or go on a talk show to clear the air about a rumor. Also, social media lacks privacy. Hacking has been outrageous nowadays. You can’t even use your credit card to buy things online because someone will hack you and steal your information off of your account. People who have business pages and have the option to buy things directly off the website, get hacked. Also, teenagers tend to use social media heavily and it reflects in their grades, language, and sometimes even their actions because of something they saw. It can also cause depression for a lot of people and it’s linked to narcissistic traits as well. Of course, cyberbullying happens, unauthorized sharing of YouTube videos cost millions of dollars to YouTubers, and nothing can be completely deleted of these sights.

I don’t know where I fall on this topic. I do think it has benefits, but I do believe it has drawbacks. The only thing I can say is, I wish I had waited until I was a little older to engage in social media. I got a myspace at thirteen and then a Facebook at fourteen. I got an Instagram at twenty-three. I think if I could have waited until I was mature enough to handle the drawbacks of social media, mentally It would have been very beneficial. I fell victim to social isolation. Now, one thing about me is I am an introvert, I do find peace in being alone, and I would rather spend the day at home reading a book or writing a blog or writing something else than going around family or hanging with friends. Not that I hate doing that, I just like it better being by myself. I’ve always been that way. When I say falling victim to social isolation, I mean social media gave me feelings of disconnect. The “passive consumption” that I was doing created loneliness and low self-esteem and even contributed to my depression. The scanning without commenting is not good for you. So, if you find yourself doing that, stop. Like a photo, status, or video, or comment on it. Don’t keep scanning or just get off. Simple as that. I do believe that social media an be a good thing though. I have found some amazing opportunities for myself as far as work using these social media. I found out about WordPress on Facebook.

Any thoughts?

Is College Worth It? Pros and Cons

This is an argument that I can relate too. This is probably one of the most relatable things that I may ever blog about because I went to college and have questioned it myself. I have done my research and saw the pros and cons to both sides and have came to my own conclusion about if college is worth it.

I’ll start with the pros because it’s always good to start with the benefits of something (Unless you’re in a job interview. Always start with the weakness first so you don’t leave a bad taste in the employer’s mouth). Everything that I’m saying is based on research. One of the pros is that young adult that attend college learn interpersonal skills. Students have the opportunity to interact with other students, staff, join clubs, and take part in discussions a debate’s which contributes to them developing interpersonal skills. Another pro to attending college is college allows students to explore career options. Colleges offer internships, career services, job fairs, volunteer opportunities, and a variety of college course work that will provide and prepare students for employment. Statistics shows that approximately 80% of college graduates who completed an internship in college was able to get obtain a career because of the experience it was able to provide them with. Also, learning is always worthwhile. College forces students to learn new ideas, ask questions, meet people, to think, imagine. They come to college as one person and leave college as another person.

As there are pros to going to college, there are cons to college as well. Student debt can be overwhelming for students. Also, college students who graduate often work in jobs that do not require a college degree or its not in the field that they went to school for. Also, many people succeed without college degrees. People start their own businesses that take off, or they find really great jobs, it’s loopholes to a lot of things without a college degree. (Ex: Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Walt Disney) Sometimes, many students do not graduate and they waste a lot of their own money and the government money. Also, college is unaffordable to some people. Some people don’t have access to the funds to be able to afford to go to college. The benefit of a bachelor’s degree have been diluted by employers over the years because they are requiring more requirements from students.

As a graduate of college with a bachelor’s degree in English and a film studies Minor, I have to agree with the cons side of things because I am seeing this side of things. Maybe it’s because of my chosen major, but an English major is universal and I think employers and people in general underestimate the value of an English major. I graduated in 2017 and I have yet to find a job that will allow me to use my degree. I am going to be going for my masters in something nonrelated to English and I will be going to get my real estate license. I am still going to pursue my dreams of becoming a writer, but I have to strategize and do things differently. Also, I have unpaid student loans that I can’t afford. As of right now, I am unemployed. I will admit, college has taught me a lot about myself. It has provided me with the necessary tools to be able to communicate properly in the real world, and I do have the degree (not many people can say that). Things will change for me and maybe I will see some of the pros because there are more than what I listed, but as of now it didn’t really do me any justice.

How about everyone else?

Death Penalty: Right or Wrong

The debate on whether the death penalty should be allowed has been a controversial topic for years. I have my own opinions on what I think about the topic, but of course I must cover both sides of the arguments in order to properly state my peace. Before I go into the pros and cons, I want to give a little background information on the death penalty. Majority death penalty cases in the United States involved murder. Other crimes such as treason, or espionage has been punishable under the death penalty as well, capital murder has been the number one crime that gets the death penalty. They are put to death by lethal injection.

People who are pro death penalty says it’s an important tool because it cost less than life in prison. The justice system will always seek low cost tools that are effective versus something that is higher in price range and effective. They want to keep the cost down. Those people who are on death row will be sitting in jail for a long time before they are put to death anyway. The term “eye for an eye” works in this scenario (Again, no other crime is being thought about except for capital murder). They feel like the death penalty will honor the victim, help grieving families heal, and ensure society that the perpetrator won’t have the opportunity to commit the heinous crime again.

People who are opposed to the death penalty says otherwise. They aren’t thinking the same things that people who are pro death penalty are thinking. They are thinking about the power it gives the justice system. They don’t think that it has any long-term effects on crime. They could easily target people of color and people who could not afford good attorneys. They aren’t worried about the cost of how much it will cost to keep someone locked up for life in prison versus the death penalty. They are more concerned with social justice fairness.

I have studied and researched both arguments and growing up and learning something on my own, I concluded that I am on the opposed side to the death penalty. I do understand why this can be controversial and debatable because I had to sit and think about my decision. I don’t think the government should be in control of taking someone else life. Also, life in prison is a much harder punishment then the death penalty because you’re punishing that person’s family and not so much the person. If they get the death penalty, they aren’t here to see the “good” effects of it. Their family and loved ones shouldn’t have to pay for their crimes.

Should The USA Have The Electoral College Process?

I want to discuss the electoral college. It’s a very controversial topic because some people approve of it and some people don’t. Although, I understands both sides of the argument, I do have an opinion on what I think of the electoral college.

One of the pros to having an electoral college system is that the founding fathers placed it in the constitution because they felt that it was the best method in choosing the president. The felt the purpose of the electoral college was to put up protection or a safeguard against uneducated and ununiformed voters by giving the final say to electors that had the necessary information to make the best decision. Also, to prevent states with larger populations having a big impact on the decision of who becomes president and it serves as a compromise between letting the popular vote and congress choose president. Another pro for having an electoral college is that it makes it possible for every part of the country to be apart of selecting the president. If the election depended solely on the popular vote, then I guess that would mean some areas would be ignored such as farms and more metropolitan areas would be favored in voting for the president. Rural areas and small towns would marginalize versus highly dense areas. This will happen because when people are running for president, they must build a campaign platform with a national focus. In conclusion, this means the winner will be serving the needs for the entire country and if the electoral college helps with building the campaign so, that it’s possible for everyone can vote. The obvious pro of the electoral college is that they guarantee that there will be a president elected. The electoral process can give presidents more credibility because it can create a large directive for them.

Now it’s time to get into the cons of the electoral college. One of the major cons about the electoral college is related to one of the pros about the electoral college. Although the founding fathers placed this process in the constitution, the reason behind it is no longer relevant today. Modern technology has made a huge impact on how voters can receive their knowledge on information about the presidential election. The electoral college was created to stop any bias decisions that were being made. Another con is the electoral college gives too much power to the swing states. The two main political parties can count on certain states to win the election. For an example, California for democratic and Indiana for republic. These states are solely what they are, and the presidents don’t worry about gaining that states popular vote. The main concern or con about the electoral college is that it ignores the will of the people. This is very self-explanatory. Hilary Clinton won the popular vote in the 2016 election, but Donald Trump still won. That wasn’t the first time that had happened to her. Obviously, the people had wanted her to be president, but the electoral college wanted it to be Donald Trump.

If I had to choose a side, I would say I’m in between. I don’t think the electoral college process is totally bad, but there are glitches and adjustments that do need to be attended to so the will of the people aren’t being ignored. So, we can have a president that everyone is proud of. Also, I do like the fairness that it was intended for so, like I said some adjustments will need to happen because the reason for it being started is no longer relevant. It needs to keep up with modern society if it’s going to work. We have millions of people in the USA and 538 people that are on the electoral college board shouldn’t have the final say. I do think we need a new compromise.

Pros and Cons on Minimum Wage Increase

I live in New York State. I can only talk about what I know about the area that I live in when it comes to the topic of raising minimum wage. I’m sure some of the things I say can apply to other areas as well. There are pros and cons to raising minimum wage. When I joined the working class, minimum wage in upstate New York State was $7.25. Now, I believe it’s $11.10 and on December 31,2019 it will be $11.80. In downstate New York, meaning New York City, minimum wage is already $15.00. The cost of living there is higher than upstate New York so, there wages are always higher than ours. (By the way, I live in Buffalo, NY which is upstate.) I did some research, and this is what I found out.

I’ll start with the pros to raising minimum wage. One of the pros is it will help reduce poverty. People could make more money and be able to afford the essential things that are needed to live. Food, shelter, and clothing, and maybe transportation if you want to add that in as essential, whether it’s your own private car or public transportation. If people have a decent standard of living, them they tend to be more productive. Another positive thing about raising minimum wage is it reduces income inequality and gives people an incentive. Giving people an incentive or pay for performance allows them to have a reason to work. An increase in minimum wage also gives more spending money to people. This will help increase business revenue because there will be higher demand because of all the shopping people will be doing. Also, people who are making more money can have more time to invest in their education. If they are making decent pay and can maintain, then they will be able to obtain and invest in an education. This brings me to increasing minimum wage helps businesses because if you are paying your workers decent, they won’t leave for a higher paying job, meaning they won’t have a high turnover rate, meaning less money they must spend hiring people.

During my research, I found that most of the cons were pertaining to business owners who opposed to increasing minimum wage. One of the cons is labor cost is the most expensive thing when you have a business. When the government forces them to pay their workers more money per worker, they will hire fewer workers to cut down the cost or keep the cost of labor the same. This will increase the unemployment rate because minimum wage workers now must compete for these jobs. Smaller companies may not be able to operate with just a few workers so, sometimes they will have to file for bankruptcy. Another disadvantage of increasing minimum wage is it can increase the unemployment rate and force people onto welfare. This can happen because it helps the workers who have jobs. Studies have showed that experienced workers received higher pay and less experienced workers lost their jobs. By this happening, more people were forced into getting on welfare.

They came to their decision because the pros outweighed the cons. If I had to state my opinion and put my input on where I stood on this debate, I would say I’m leaning more towards the people who are the cons side. I get it and completely understand the people who are pro raise minimum wage, but I must disagree. No, I am not rich, living comfortably, and yes, I do receive Medicaid health insurance and as of right now, I am unemployed, so I am collecting unemployment.

Again, I can only speak for New York State because that is where I live. I only know the ratios here and what goes on in this state. First, I do believe $7.25 is way too low. I don’t think minimum wage should be that low but raising it to $15.00 in Upstate New York State is crazy. I think $11.10 is a good wage for a few reasons. If you think about it, people who go to college and get an associate degree or a certificate, a lot of those degrees starting pay is at $15 for entry-level. I think this is a clear indicator that starting minimum wage at $15.00 will disable a lot of people for striving for higher educational achievements. Also, the cost a living is going to keep going up. Every year as minimum wage goes up, so will the cost of living up. I am currently living in a one-bedroom apartment. When I first moved here, it was $730 a month everything included. Second year, it was $745. Now, it’s $760, but I am moving out of this place because of a smelly neighbor. As I am looking at other place, the rent is even crazier. Places that are one bedroom with amenities or utilities included are $750 plus. Places that are lower than that are either run down, nothing is included, the place are small, or in a bad area. So, with that being said I am more on the con side of this because my living situation will be at stake of the cost of living going up because of minimum wage increasing.

How do you feel about the increase of Minimum wage?

Is Switching To Natural Deodorant Worth It?

For those of you who do not know what an armpit detox is, it is when you don’t wear any deodorant or antiperspirant for a period of time to get rid of toxins that are in your body. An armpit detox removes sticky build up, minimize frequent illness and enlarged lymph nodes, and eliminate odor. Armpit detoxing is not an easy process. It can take a toll on your confidence because all the bacteria that’s been harboring under your armpits are being revealed and it doesn’t smell great. Detoxing will help balance the bacteria in your body resulting in a more natural smell.

To help speed up the process of armpit detoxing you can use a detox mask that consist of bentonite clay, apple cider vinegar, and water mixed together. You put it under your armpits and let it dry on like a mask you would put on your face. Then, wash it off using soap and water. After you have done this, use a cotton ball to put witch hazel under your arms because it is a natural astringent and over time with continued usage, your armpits will lighten up and the toxins from regular deodorant and antiperspirants will release from your body. A lot of people don’t know that your armpits is one of the most sensitive layers of skin on your body and it is one of the entries and exit points of the human body.

Is it worth it to quit deodorant/antiperspirants? Studies have shown that they are linked to causing breast cancer because of the toxic and harmful chemical that are used in conventional deodorant such as aluminum, parabens, phthalates, and propylene glycol. Putting these chemicals into your body can affect your immune health because of the excessive usage of the years. When you put antiperspirant under your arms, it absorbs through the skin and goes into the bloodstream. This can be harmful to your health because of the toxic chemicals. Also, other ingredients that are in conventional deodorants like silica and talc can cause skin irritations.

The smell that you get under your arms comes from built up bacteria that must be released from the body. Sweat is supposed to be odorless.

I am in the process of switching to natural deodorant for health purposes and I want to share my experience, process, and results.

Day 1: I’m currently in the process of moving, so I spent that Saturday packing. I didn’t have any deodorant on, and I was sweaty from all the moving around. I had a lot of must coming from my armpits. Later that night, I showered, and I didn’t put any on before bed like I normally would.

Day 2: I did some more packing, but it wasn’t too much. I was mostly sedentary on that Sunday. My armpits were sweaty and smelled like onions. I used soap and water to wash them, then I put witch hazel under my arms afterwards.

Day 3: I was doing a lot of moving around and I was sweaty. I used soap and water to wash my armpits and then, witch hazel afterwards. I had lots of body odor. I smelled like a bunch of onions that were being heated up in the microwave.

Day 4: I had a much better day in regards to smell. I did sweat a lot, but I rarely had any odor coming from my armpits the entire day until it was time for me to go to bed. Again, I would wash with soap and water and use witch hazel afterwards.

Day 5: It was a much better day. After I showered and put my witch hazel on. I didn’t sweat for the entire day. I didn’t start to smell until it was time for me to go to bed. It was a lot of itching though.

Day 6: I did my usual wash routine. I had physical therapy. For some reason, I was really smelly that day. I don’t know if it was me and I was just in public and paranoid, but my armpits were bad. I also, had a party to go to and my armpits were smelly, they weren’t sweaty though.

Day 7: I did a lot of moving around because I was doing some packing, but I washed my armpits and used witch hazel. After that, I didn’t smell for the remainder of the day and I didn’t sweat. When it was bedtime, only one armpit smelled.

I am now going to try a detox mask and witch hazel for week two and use a natural deodorant as a I transition.

Is switching to natural deodorant worth the risk of being smelly?

Diet Teas: Fab or Fad?

Studies have shown that “Diet and detox teas may help you temporarily lose water and fecal (sorry) weight, but they have no lasting effect. … Because the Senna Diet Products contain no weight loss ingredients or fat burners, it is are not an effective treatment for weight loss or appetite suppression and does not in fact work as advertised.” There is a trend on Instagram where celebrities are getting paid to advertise these weight loss and detox teas to earn money. One particular celebrity actually said a tea called Teami actually was one of the reasons she had lost her baby weight. So, my question is are these weight loss and detox teas legit?

Rapper Cardi B said, after she had her baby and started getting back into the swing of things and started to lose weight, she used the tea called Teami. She used it to curb her appetite. She said that she lost more weight then she wanted to, but it helped.
Over the past couple months, I have been dieting to lose weight the natural way. Dieting and exercise have been my method. I have read that people were taking these teas and were losing 5 pounds in one week and just these drastic results. I will say that when I first started losing weight, I did lose 7 pounds my first week, so it is possible. I bought one of those dieting teas and tried it out. They consist of a lot of natural herbs, so it says. The taste wasn’t really that great, so I had to add lemon and coffee creamer to it so I’m able to even drink it. I continued to watch what I eat but exercising lacked because of the carpal tunnel surgery that I had and the recovering process. I had one cup in the morning. I will say I did find it useful to be a meal replacement for breakfast. It did help curb my appetite a little bit, but as soon as you miss a cup of that tea, your hunger goes back to normal. I didn’t really lose much weight the entire time I drank the tea. I lost about three pounds. I guess if I drank it much longer, then maybe it could have worked better.
It did contain natural herbs. I can’t remember what the natural herbs in it were, but in the tea bag you can see all the herbs. You don’t have to order those special kinds of teas that the celebrities advertise online for those higher prices. The ones you see in grocery stores by the regular teas carry the same ingredients and herbs.

Overall, I don’t think my weight loss came from the tea. I was already dieting and exercising before I started testing out this theory so, I think it just came from me eating healthy. I hardly noticed any real change in my appetite. So, I can’t really tell if these claims are true that diet and detox teas aid in weight loss.

(Fun fact: Your body is designed to detox naturally so, you do not need a detox tea or any other drink to aid in weight loss.)


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